We all face various types of pressure in high school. Usually it centers around smoking, drinking, and sex. Friends may try to convince that you should give something a try. But if you consistently say no, they typically relent and life goes on. That's if they are truly your friends.
As a 13 year old freshman, I was not completely ready for some of the pressures I would face. Getting involved with others that were juniors and seniors was not the best group. But somehow, I was drawn to the older crowd within band when I started band camp. I ended up dating some juniors and seniors.
The first guy I dated was a junior, but had been held back so was 17. A 4 year difference in high school is huge. He had way more experience with everything. And being a somewhat small girl, he definitely had a significant amount of strength on me. It started with coercing me into sexual activity. Never quite pushed to the point of sex. But there was physical force. I didn't realize how terrible it was at the time. You know, a 13yo girl excited to be dating a 17yo boy. I was wanted by him. But it left so many scars on my heart that took so long to heal. I still have issues with some aspects of intimacy because it triggers something within me. Some day I might find someone that accepts this part of me.
I'm now the mother of a 12yo girl. And I strive to protect both her innocence and her heart. I know that before she enters high school, I will have to have a heart to heart conversation so she understands the dangers of being alone with boys. No one ever thinks it will happen to them. It wasn't a stranger, it was someone I saw every day at school. It started innocently and turned evil very quickly. I still don't understand the purpose of this experience from God's perspective. I'm not sure that I ever will, except that maybe going through this pain will save my daughter from a similar experience.
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